Golden Yolk of Relationships

Disclaimer :

Firstly, I am not a relationship guru 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 . But I am writing this down just to note some thoughts and observations based on my experience. What you are about to read might solve All (or) Some (or) None of your relationship problems.

Introduction:

To many of us, relationship is like a black-box. We get amused about why some relationships are so special or disappointed on  why some relationships do not seem to be the way they are supposed to be.  I am sharing a perspective here in an attempt to unravel how our approach to various individuals define our relationship with them.

The Layers:

Imagine there are three layers of relationship as shown above. Ideally I would have loved to present an info-graphic here. Owing to my laziness , lets define these layers as follows  -

1, Innermost Core -   You have  a 3 am friend?  there you go.  This is the closest layer. Some salient features of this layer are as follows 

• There is almost zero fear of judgement from the opposite person in this layer. 
• We share our innermost feelings here. Some of them could be politically incorrect, some of them could be crass commentary. 
• The activities in this layer have highest influence in our behaviour or mood of a day.   
• You expose your weaknesses knowingly or unknowingly , remember there is no fear of judgement.  
• Emotional dependence will emerge over a period of time. 
• Examples include, Family members, Close friends or could be anyone else with whom you share such relationship. 

2, Interior Crust  -   You remember that guy in your previous workplace who used to have coffee with you daily but was never in touch with you after you joined in new job?

• You know you are being judged. You try to elevate your strength.  
• Mostly discuss and work around the issues which are related to our day to day problems. 
• You are more inclined to 
• No commitment or emotional dependency, but important for day to day business. 
• Activities involve mutual benefit, tend to look like transactions at the outset. 
• Examples like colleagues, classmates could be anyone else with whom you share such relationship.

3, The PeriPhery -   Do you have that one guy in your messenger list who sends you good morning invariably almost everyday? this is it.